![]() ![]() ![]() The fact that human attachment is an inescapable fact of biology gives rise to our differing methods of dealing with it. In prehistoric times, pairs of humans had a better chance of survival than any solo human, so genetic selection favored people who “attached”-or learned how to develop close bonds with others. Psychologists believe this brain wiring is an evolutionary adaptation. Our brains’ attachment systems create, monitor, and maintain our connections with the people who matter to us. But by understanding how attachment drives us, we can achieve less conflict and more harmony in our relationships.Īttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment is based on the premise that people are biologically driven to seek intimacy and closeness with a significant other. If two partners’ attachment responses fall on opposing ends of the spectrum, clashes are inevitable. Some people feel the attachment urge and automatically want to resist it or suppress it. Even though every human is wired with this urge for closeness, we respond to its pull in different ways. Many of the problems we face in our romantic relationships stem from our attachment systems, a mechanism in our brains that compels us to seek intimacy and closeness with a chosen partner-both physically and emotionally. ![]()
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